Before I begin let me stress that I have a habit of ‘generalising’…
so when I say things like ‘women’ ‘men’ ‘boys’ ‘girls’ I DEFINITLY don’t mean ALL of them in world… You get my drift? Its just ‘generalising’…
On the other hand if you are in anyway offended by this blog (I doubt but sincerely hope somebody would be) pleeeeeaaaaassseeee let me know @udi_chewy (Twitter) or better still leave a comment :)…
But sha… here it is...
Jack Dorsey may have blessed us with Twitter (a ground breaking phenomenon which practically eradicates self thought)
but as some of us may have noticed; 140 characters is simply not enough to express the strong views and values of our hearts! Nor does satisfy our urge to let the world know ALL the inner workings of our unique, clever, brilliant mind!!!!
& Though YFrog ( or whatever it is) & Twit.Longer tried to help us with this insane craving of self-exposure, it clearly hasn’t satisfied everyone (understatement)… hence the rise to stardom of Twitters older brother;
Mass Blogging! :)
Oh yes… A wonderful miracle indeed…
However, these days it seems no matter where I & Ruby (my wonderful Mac book Pro) aimlessly browse through on the rapidly expanding World Wide Web (i.e. the usual Facebook, Twitter & Formspring; Yes I’m still into that too!) we always run into one peculiar thing; a girl with a blog.
Yep a girl with a blog :)
My focus today would be on that...
It seems every ‘girl blog’ no matter how interesting, diverse, witty, fantastic or mind blowing as they might be (& honestly, some REALLY are I tell you) 99% seem to have, at one point or another have addressed, mentioned, debated, discussed, criticised or downright crucified a certain topic;
(wait for it..)
..BOYS!!!!
Yes Boys!
& we all know what I’m talking about.. or well the guys do..
The ‘I-don’t-like-boys’ ‘don’t-need-a-man’ ‘just-fine-on-my-own’ convention many chics seem to have adopted these days! All with same slogan…
Boys are heart breakers!
Boys are cheats!
Boys are mean!
Boys are animals!
Boys are ungrateful!
Boys ruined my life!
Boys destroyed the world!
Boys…
Boys…
Boys!!! Boys!! BOYS! BOYS!!!!
& ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH*
To be honest I'm getting quite fed up with it!
It is annoying how most girls seem to have mentally labelled boys as ‘shallow heartless beast with an insatiable hunger for sex.’ (I’m slightly paraphrasing here btw)
Jeez!
Come on ladies, are we really ALL like this? (#DontAnswerThat) -_-
But really though…
Where’s the credit?
Where’s the good part?
Is it really all "the Boys" Fault?
My Ghanian Oral English Teacher once told me that Women think with their hearts, & men with their Heads. You may have come across the female edited version, which ends the saying with ‘penis’...
But frankly I believe the saying is true (the ‘Head’ and not ‘Penis’ version tho!)
I think women should really relax… take a breather… & start evaluating things (especially relationships) with their Heads and not their Hearts.
Come on, you’ve been in a relationship with 3,4,5,6 guys in your life, &; ALL of them seemed to have cheated on or randomly dumped you at one point or another… (My sincere apologies yo)
But instead of jumping into the conclusion that ‘All Boys are cheats’ &; ‘All Boys would break your Heart’ it might be just as smart (or even smarter) to ask yourself …
‘Why is it that they ALL cheat?’
‘Why is that they ALL break your Heart?’
Now... WAIT! WAIT! WAIT!
Slow your horses ladies!
I can already hear the same ‘Heart’ answers coming through again…
“Because they are Souless!”
“Because they are Dogs!”
“Because they only care about Sex..” etc.
yes, yes.. this could ALL be true..
but…
Did you really know your partner before you started dating/being in relationship?
Now, this is a common case amongst women…
I don’t understand why you would date a player & not expect to get played? It’s like playing with a tap & hoping not to get wet. (the whole fire/burnt thing is stale mehn.. like really who STILL plays with fire? Its 2011! lol)
Anyway My point is!
Do not be stupid! #UseYourHead.
A player does what he does; He plays! & The whole essence of getting played is that 90% of the time you are getting played… You DO NOT know you are getting played!
Now if you’re one of those very few girls who seem oblivious to the traits of a player well I’m afraid you’re going to have to get played for a few more times cause that topic is for another day. :(
A N Y W A Y…
Listen ladies, if you want the richest, finest, smoothest bahddest guy in your school/Uni/Club/Workplace/Country anything… Realise Its Not Only You That Would Be After Him! We all want the best things in life, so keep it in your head that he has and will ALWAYS have other options apart from you. (Many girls are quite content being the ‘side’ chic) So regardless of if he has promised to never cheat, be prepared to work extra hard to stay above the competition if not;
YOU WILL LOSE HIM.
It’s that plain & its that simple. (Believe it, Boys have this (vice versa) in our head most of the time & if we really like you we’ll try to prove we are the best out there… even if we aren’t). So if you don’t want to or can’t fight for him better reduce your standard and settle for the commoners who will be less of a hassle ---->(yours truly :) ) lol.
If you know the boy has been with other girls did you really expect him to be a celibate when he is with you?
Don’t get me wrong… some guys will do this but not all fingers are equal.
#UseYourHead!
Don’t get me wrong… some guys will do this but not all fingers are equal.
#UseYourHead!
The dude has slept around with a million girls! Don’t expect to him to suddenly stop because you want to ‘wait till marriage’.
ARE YOU DUMB BLAD?
Hormones don’t have a switch you can turn On & Off you know!
He might even want to wait but hey! #BodyNoBeWood.
Sex to Boys can mean as little as a routine, a good time, a stress relief…
He may continue sleeping around & ‘love’ you.
You would definitely have to do more than just tell him you don’t want to have sex to actually keep him faithful. There’ll be a lot of cooing… diplomacy… & ‘meeting in the middle’ (if you get my drift) involved to actually make it work lol. Again I stress; it all depends on how much you want him.
You could always settle for a boy who is quite satisfied with kissing & occasional fondling. It’s that simple :)
& The list goes on mehn…
All I’m saying is read between the lines! Before you jump in & get heart broken and then start whining to the world & RUINING THE IMAGES OF BOYS BY PUTTING IT UP ON A BLOG OR TELLING ALL YOUR FRIENDS BULLOCKS!
Like come on!
It’s already hard enough to get girls these days already! Kmt*
FIND OUT ABOUT THE DUDE!
& I don’t mean call his friends and ask what he is like!
H E L L O?!!!
We are looking for dirt here?!
#UseYourHead!
Ex’s? Enemies? Classmates? Houseboys? Housegirls? lol
You know, people that don’t have a stake in him... sorta..
& if you feel that’s too drastic, well just watch him!!
You can learn so much about a person by just watching the way he treats his friends, family, his work or even his food!
#ShineYourEye!
If he is wicked & deceitful to others around him don’t expect him to treat you differently (or well for too long anyway)
I’ve found that they are too many girls, who want and keep getting the Mr Rich/Popular/Handsome/Don’tGiveAfuck guy & then end up wondering why they keep leaving over & over & over again…
Are You Kidding Me?
I know we usually want what we cant get but don’t go getting what you cant keep either!!!
They say Madness is doing the EXACT same thing over & over again & each time expecting a different result.
...Sound Familiar?
Please ladies, don’t be MAD
#UseYourHead
There are still 2 more questions I would need you to use as self evaluation but I shall them save for another day… Later..
& wow… that actually felt good! No wonder chics (ok & dude too :P) just chat loads of shit up here…
cant wait for the next time I’m in the mood…
Sha Till then remember.. #HeadAndNotHeart
